"The Secret" reminds us that if we dwell on the things we don´t want we shall only reap more of what we don´t want. Instead focus on what we are grateful for, really develop a sense of gratitude and we shall see the good rather than bring ourselves down by focussing on the bad.
I recommend you visit my blog post Importance of Keeping a Gratitude Journal at http://the-secret-and-law-of-attraction.blogspot.com/2007/10/importance-of-keeping-gratitude-journal.html< This has helped me so much. In one of Oprah's final programmes she mentioned the Gratitude Journal and what a profound effect it has had on her life. The book starts on 1 January so now is a great time to give yourself and your loved ones this book - the best Christmas present which will last a lifetime.